In recent weeks when people have been receiving exam results, some people will have got the results they wanted, while others will have to come to terms with not achieving what they had hoped for.
Failure can often be the motivation for success, the shock of not achieving what you want can give you more determination to prove you are worthy of success and can help put you on the right path where you will flourish. How many times have you not achieved something such as getting your ‘dream’ job and then months later realised it was for the best.
There is a negative view about failing, but some of the most successful people in history have had failed on the road to success. Einstein once said ‘If you’ve never failed, you’ve never tried anything new.’ J.K Rowling stated “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” Thomas Edison, the creator of the electric light bulb, who had many failures throughout his career once said ‘I’ve not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.’
Henry Ford once stated that ‘failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently’ and there is a saying in the therapy world that there is no failure only feedback. So isn’t time to view failure differently, to view it as a way of learning, a time to reassess and to move forward with new found wisdom. Just think how liberating it would be to lose the fear of failure, what could achieve if you stopped worrying about the outcome? By making a small change to your mindset, you could probably enjoy the process more and find that success is easier to achieve. After all, things seem much easier when we are enjoying what we are doing.
So how about your dare yourself to fail and see how that can free you up to be successful.
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